Is it normal to lack confidence as a new parent?

March 12, 2019 | Parenting & Prenatal

By Samantha Reed, RN

Totally. Just like any new transition in life, we become experts by learning through experience. Every parent feels overwhelmed and insecure at times. Bringing home a new baby can be scary. Yet it is through our own experience that we begin to build confidence.

Jim Gaffigan, comedian and father of five, said, “I don’t know what’s more exhausting about being a parent: the getting up early or acting like you know what you’re doing.” While funny, it is hard because you don’t always know what to do, or say; and you will be tired and sometimes feel like you’re the worst parent. You’re not. You’re normal.

It’s important to remember that it takes a village to raise a child. You yourself were raised not only by a parent or parents, but also by extended family, teachers, coaches, preachers, and more. Parenting takes time and energy, and utilizing community resources (parenting classes, home visiting services, groups etc.) can provide a parent with the tools and support needed for success.

If your shaken confidence feels overwhelming, and you are feeling like you’ll never be good enough, or that your child would be better off without you, consider taking this (https://psychology-tools.com/epds/) online questionnaire and sharing the results with a medical professional.